Relationships in bands mirror romantic relationships in every way except the obvious one (and sometimes not even in that way). When a band ends, it’s exactly like a long term relationship ending. For some time, I’ve been on the rebound band wise. Some, like my wonderful wife, would say too long. I’ve had a lot of the classic rebound relationships; I’ve played with bands who weren’t as into me as I was into them, I’ve played with bands who just weren’t in my league, and I’ve even had a one night thing with The Thornleys.
In reality I’m still comparing every experience with new musicians with that of my former band. And it’s tough, cause my band was good, and pretty big. When we played shows, people came, people listened, people cheered.
So how do you get over that is the question. I’m giving myself the advice I’d give anyone in the rebound; you won’t meet anyone when you’re looking, and until you are completely comfortable with being single, you won’t be able to be with someone new.
So I’m going for that. I’ve been busking (not glamorous!) and I’m playing open mics. I’m not worrying about response, or crowd size, or topping anything i’ve done before. I’m just playing. I’ll let you know how it goes.